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Last night I told the guy I love how I have been feeling lately and how unhappy I have been. I told him how I felt second to everything in his life. He listened, did not comment and said that we would talk about it in the morning. This morning he told me that I wasn’t the only one disatisfied, that his mother,grandmother,sister and everyone expects him to do more and need him and want him. He says that he feels like he is being pulled in twenty different directions. I have been trying to understand, but I feel that since I am willing to spend my life with him and be only dedicated to him then I should get more time than others. His life is very complicated compared to mines, and I don’t have nearly as many responsibilities or people dependent on me, but I am unhappy. I love him so much, but I get tired of waiting for him to make time for me. What I imagined for our relationship was him seeing me at least once a week or so and us hanging out more but it’s nothing like that. It’s about to be two weeks and all I have done is talk to him on the phone. He told me that he doesn’t really enjoy hanging out with his grandma or family, that is where he has been these last weeks before school helping her in her shop because times are hard for him and he is trying to make money because the real esate business is bad but it doesn’t stop my feelings of neglect. He says that helping his grandma and being around his family right now is beneficial to him and putting money in his pocket which just spending time with me doesn’t and I can’t give him anything because I am school and dependent on my father. I don’t know what to do because I love him so much but I don’t want to keep having these feelings of disappointment because he can’t be with me. I know my expectations for him is a little high but I have imagined so long what I relationship would be like and now that we have one and it’s nothing I wanted or imagined all l I feel is sad,angry, and disappointed.

My emotions are playing tug-of-war. One solution my mind tells me is to leave him and wait or try to find someone who has more time to spend with me and make the mistake of not finding anyone,messing up something that wasn’t great but better then nothing, and end up being alone.

My second thought is to stay because I love him and accept that there will always be not enough time for me and maybe make the mistake of not moving on because there was someone out there better than him for me and regretting it later.

I don’t not want to have any regrets.Should I take my chances out there maybe finding someone or maybe not who will have more time for me or keep what I have and deal that things are what they are?

I need help, please people with experience and no jokes!

ALEC